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Why Do Republicans Only Care About Saving Fetuses?Why Do Republicans Only Care About Saving Fetuses?
Sat, 06/15/2024

Why Do Republicans Only Care About Saving Fetuses?

On October 1, 2017, Stephen Paddock, a high-rolling casino gambler, pointed a gun outfitted with a bump stock at a crowd of concertgoers and fired…

Self-Esteem a Problem?Self-Esteem a Problem?
Tue, 06/11/2024

Self-Esteem a Problem?

Here's the thing ... Over the years, many clients have shared that their self-esteem is low. Then they ask me, "How can I develop high self-esteem…

How to rewire the judge and jury inside your brainHow to rewire the judge and jury inside your brain
Tue, 06/11/2024

How to rewire the judge and jury inside your brain

When it comes to living healthy lifestyles, many people’s experience is like driving with the parking brake on—they may be doing some things that…

We’re Turning Away From Love And It’s Killing UsWe’re Turning Away From Love And It’s Killing Us
Tue, 05/28/2024

We’re Turning Away From Love And It’s Killing Us

The day my father passed, my mother got it in her head that all their worldly belongings should be up for grabs. “If you kids don’t want them, let…

Knowledge
Fri, 05/10/2024

Be aware of others

For the last six months we have been traveling 8 hours back and forth to help my sister-in-law during her terminal battle with cancer. She lost…

Stop that habit!Stop that habit!
Thu, 05/09/2024
Where there is hate, there is love.Where there is hate, there is love.
Tue, 05/07/2024

Where there is hate, there is love.

They’re Jewish. They’re Muslim. They’re orthodox Jews. They’re radical Muslims. They’re Zionists. They’re terrorists. They’re rapists. To each…

I Wish Things Were Different!I Wish Things Were Different!
Tue, 04/30/2024

I Wish Things Were Different!

All of us have said it,

"I wish that hadn't happened."

"I kick myself for having said that!"

"I regret ever buying into his…

Isometrics And Hope MoleculesIsometrics And Hope Molecules
Thu, 04/25/2024

Isometrics And Hope Molecules

Yesterday, I went to the market to pick up a few items and got into the express line right behind a rather imposing woman. While we waited in line…

Knowledge
Fri, 04/12/2024

Seeing it from both sides...

…can make all the difference. Who's right and who's wrong — maybe both, maybe neither. Putting yourself in someone else's shoes can make a big…

Unhinged!Unhinged!
Thu, 04/11/2024

Unhinged!

The other day, I watched a movie called Unhinged. It was scary good. And boy, did it teach a good lesson about anger.

Imagine this …

Comments Are The Heart And Soul Of YoutropolisComments Are The Heart And Soul Of Youtropolis
Wed, 03/27/2024

Comments Are The Heart And Soul Of Youtropolis

Recently, as part of our design upgrade, we made the decision to “nest” replies to comments. This means you can read comments without having to…

K-ching! And The Value Of KindredsK-ching! And The Value Of Kindreds
Tue, 03/26/2024

K-ching! And The Value Of Kindreds

Social networks are now the dominant force for social interactions worldwide. Most social platforms give people the simplest tools for expressing…

Turn on a dimeTurn on a dime
Mon, 03/25/2024

Turn on a dime

“I need to cancel my training session today. I had a fall in my driveway, and I’m a little banged up,” read the text message from my client, Cass…

Everything you do matters.Everything you do matters.
Fri, 03/22/2024

Everything you do matters.

Some years ago, I invited an author to speak on the topic of social responsibility at a large gathering of business owners. Prior to the event, as…

The bumpy path to success can pay offThe bumpy path to success can pay off
Fri, 03/22/2024

The bumpy path to success can pay off

Looks can be deceiving. What looks like a good job may not feel so good when you’re the one doing it. That’s exactly how John Disselkamp felt. His…

Papi, Por Favor!Papi, Por Favor!
Fri, 03/22/2024

Papi, Por Favor!

It is with great excitement that I announce the release of my novel, Papi, Por Favor! Now available on Amazon and Barnes & Noble.…

Tips on how to use a post page’s activity barTips on how to use a post page’s activity bar
Mon, 03/11/2024

Tips on how to use a post page’s activity bar

Last week, we introduced new changes to our user interface. One important change was to simplify the design of post pages and bring all…

Error MessagesError Messages
Sun, 03/10/2024

Error Messages

The last couple days I'd been getting error messages when opening my four year old safe. Even though I didn't understand what was going on I didn…

The Need to be RightThe Need to be Right
Sat, 03/09/2024

The Need to be Right

People need to be right. And this, my friend, is what causes an immense amount of suffering. For both sides of the fence.

Rarely, do people…

Three Mind-bending Words That Changed My LifeThree Mind-bending Words That Changed My Life
Mon, 03/04/2024

Three Mind-bending Words That Changed My Life

Some things cannot be explained no matter how we may try. Even with advancements in technology, a blood test cannot explain what caused one’s rare…

The haunting of saying nothing, nada, zippo, zeroThe haunting of saying nothing, nada, zippo, zero
Tue, 02/27/2024

The haunting of saying nothing, nada, zippo, zero

Something has troubled me for the last week or more. It’s one of those small moments in life I’d like to pretend never happened, but then it…

A Coffin Doesn't Have PocketsA Coffin Doesn't Have Pockets
Sun, 02/25/2024

A Coffin Doesn't Have Pockets

At our monthly coffee date last week my friend was bursting with excitement sharing his decision to accept an invitation from his friends to join…

Good BonesGood Bones
Sun, 02/25/2024

Good Bones

I was recently introduced to this stunning poem by award winning poet Maggie Smith. By the end of it I noticed I was literally holding my…

Change ...Change ...
Tue, 02/20/2024

Change ...

Is there something in your life you'd like to change? For most of us, there's usually something with which we are unhappy; something that we'd…

The KeyThe Key
Mon, 02/19/2024

The Key

Immersed in podcasts I've been saving for a rainy day such as this I'm hearing a lot about people who did all the right things and life wasn't…

Knowledge
Thu, 02/15/2024
Here Come The BarbariansHere Come The Barbarians
Tue, 02/06/2024

Here Come The Barbarians

It used to be that to succeed in this world you’d need to have at least one of the following good luck charms: a higher education, parents who…

Digestible LessonsDigestible Lessons
Sat, 02/03/2024

Digestible Lessons

A few days ago while eating breakfast my mind was all over the place. I was thinking about how digestion works. Cutting food into bite size…

Reflect!Reflect!
Fri, 02/02/2024

Reflect!

We often go through our days fast and as if by rote. When we do slow down, it's usually because we're not feeling well. Maybe due to an injury,…

Learn How to Be More Outspoken When It MattersLearn How to Be More Outspoken When It Matters
Wed, 01/31/2024

Learn How to Be More Outspoken When It Matters

Too many folks are ignoring the truth. They're looking the other way, either out of fear or feeling powerless. Not this guy. He's giving…

This man's best friendThis man's best friend
Mon, 01/29/2024

This man's best friend

This sweet story about a man and his horse starts with smiles and chuckles, but takes a surprising turn that takes the relationship to a whole new…

The Messy Middle The Messy Middle
Sun, 01/28/2024

The Messy Middle

Can you think of a time in your life where you found yourself in the gap between something ending and something beginning? There is actually a…

Don't Worry!Don't Worry!
Fri, 01/26/2024

Don't Worry!

Have you ever been around someone who is very anxious or fearful? Perhaps you yourself have had bouts with anxiety. In truth, at one point or…

Knowledge
Fri, 01/19/2024
Your Focus!Your Focus!
Tue, 01/16/2024

Your Focus!

Whatever we focus on will expand. That can go two ways--toward the positive or the negative.

I have a client who recently got new neighbors…

Don't ask for the moon if you have the starsDon't ask for the moon if you have the stars
Wed, 01/10/2024

Don't ask for the moon if you have the stars

Sometimes things aren’t what you think they are. But you’re just so sure of yourself. You know you’re right, but no one agrees with you. That can…

Problems!!!Problems!!!
Mon, 01/08/2024

Problems!!!

We all have our share of problems. And we normally consider them a bad thing. But are they always? A problem may be a way of waking us up out of a…

Time to Clear Things Out!Time to Clear Things Out!
Tue, 01/02/2024

Time to Clear Things Out!

It's the New Year. Hard to believe that 2023 is now gone forever. And what a year it was.

But it's over now. Time now to focus on the new…

11-Year-Old Boy with Autism Fails School Exams11-Year-Old Boy with Autism Fails School Exams
Sat, 12/30/2023

11-Year-Old Boy with Autism Fails School Exams

Eleven-year-old Ben Twist has autism. When he failed his SAT exams, his teacher, Ruth Clarkson, could have told him in a variety of ways that he…

Just this once!Just this once!
Thu, 12/21/2023

Just this once!

Have you ever said those words?

These are dangerous words when it compromises your moral code and integrity.

It might seem easy to…

Do you know Melatonin?Do you know Melatonin?
Tue, 12/19/2023

Do you know Melatonin?

For years, melatonin, a hormone produced by the pineal gland and the gut, has been the king of sleep supplements. In 2020, global sales of…

Be thankful for the turkeys in your life: Part 2Be thankful for the turkeys in your life: Part 2
Fri, 12/15/2023

Be thankful for the turkeys in your life: Part 2

A couple weeks back or more, I posted a lesson on being thankful for the turkeys in your life. This is chapter two, the final bit of the story…

A Positive Outlook!A Positive Outlook!
Tue, 12/12/2023

A Positive Outlook!

Do you want to be happy? Do you want to achieve great things? I think most of us would answer yes. Wouldn't you? But many of you are not happy…

Just Being!Just Being!
Wed, 12/06/2023

Just Being!

How many of you find time for just being? Just being and doing nothing? I know that for me personally, taking time for just being is a struggle…

Yes/No!Yes/No!
Tue, 11/28/2023

Yes/No!

There are two words that require more forethought than any other words, and that's "Yes" and "No." These words may seem simple and insignificant,…

Your Worst Enemy!Your Worst Enemy!
Mon, 11/27/2023

Your Worst Enemy!

We typically believe that our enemies are out there in the world waiting to strike. Be it the checker at the grocery store, a neighbor, a co-…

Be thankful for the turkeys in your lifeBe thankful for the turkeys in your life
Sun, 11/26/2023

Be thankful for the turkeys in your life

Sometimes holidays create sticky problems. My family is scattered out of state, so good people take pity on me and invite me to celebrate holiday…

Respond, Don't React!Respond, Don't React!
Fri, 11/17/2023

Respond, Don't React!

Have you noticed that in a great number of situations, differences of opinions, or things that tend to surprise you negatively, your tendency is…

Feelings Are Not Facts!Feelings Are Not Facts!
Mon, 11/13/2023

Feelings Are Not Facts!

You put a lot of credence on your emotions and feelings. You believe that all of your emotions and feelings are based on fact. In truth, most of…

Dia De Muertos & The Kindness Of A Mexican FamilyDia De Muertos & The Kindness Of A Mexican Family
Thu, 11/02/2023

Dia De Muertos & The Kindness Of A Mexican Family

Earlier this week, Evanger shared some interesting history about El Dia De Muertos, the traditional Mexican two-day celebration where spirits of…

Let it go!Let it go!
Tue, 10/31/2023

Let it go!

It is quite enticing to believe that if you worry over a situation long enough; that if you put all your time and energy into a certain problem,…

¿Dónde pasar un día de muertos excepcional?¿Dónde pasar un día de muertos excepcional?
Tue, 10/31/2023

¿Dónde pasar un día de muertos excepcional?

Mi lugar de origen se llama Nayarit Mexico, y si algun dia quieres ir a vivir una experiencia del dia de muertos te comparto que sin lugar a duda…

Thoughts!Thoughts!
Mon, 10/30/2023

Thoughts!

We humans have a habit. A bad habit. And that's thinking. Why do I think it's a bad habit? Because most of our 70,000 thoughts per day aren't…

Dia de Muertos en mi cultura MexicanaDia de Muertos en mi cultura Mexicana
Fri, 10/27/2023

Dia de Muertos en mi cultura Mexicana

Una celebración a la memoria y un ritual que privilegia el recuerdo sobre el olvido.

En la época prehispánica el culto a la muerte era uno…

Who Do You Belong To?Who Do You Belong To?
Thu, 10/26/2023

Who Do You Belong To?

To understand my question, you could ask yourself “who do I love?” If more than one, you could prioritize your list by focusing on the single one…

Make it a point to be happy!Make it a point to be happy!
Wed, 10/25/2023

Make it a point to be happy!

You're thinking, "Yeah, easier said than done."

And you're probably right. But there are things we can do to create a little happiness in…

Traffic lights and curve ballsTraffic lights and curve balls
Wed, 10/18/2023

Traffic lights and curve balls

While driving to a client session, I came upon not one, not two, but three intersections with traffic lights that had lost power. If we think back…

When Love FailsWhen Love Fails
Sat, 10/14/2023

When Love Fails

Love is always a choice. To be kind, respectful, and humane.

Neutrality is also a choice. To do nothing, say nothing, simply bear witness…

Will We All Lose Our Humanity?Will We All Lose Our Humanity?
Fri, 10/13/2023

Will We All Lose Our Humanity?

What enables one to go so irreparably dark within, corrupted, marred, their heart so disfigured with terminal hatred that every bit of humanity is…

Peace of mind in a closetPeace of mind in a closet
Sat, 10/07/2023

Peace of mind in a closet

When was the last time you felt fully at peace? I’m talking about the kind of peace that fills you and settles you down the way a pot roast does,…

It Isn't Fair!It Isn't Fair!
Thu, 10/05/2023

It Isn't Fair!

Have you ever heard yourself say those words? I think most of us, at one point or another, thought something was unfair and complained about it…

EquanimityEquanimity
Mon, 10/02/2023

Equanimity

I've learned so much about equanimity these last few months as my world has been inundated with unexpected house repairs and health issues. (I…

A deepening of a client relationshipA deepening of a client relationship
Sun, 10/01/2023

A deepening of a client relationship

One of the things I enjoy most about my job is working with different personality types and learning about my client’s unique experiences. Lindsey…

Who Hasn't Been Shaped By Sorrows?Who Hasn't Been Shaped By Sorrows?
Fri, 09/29/2023

Who Hasn't Been Shaped By Sorrows?

My laptop seems to be imbued with some mystical force that defies logic. More than once it has performed curious mind bending feats that are…

Solo cambiamos aquello que necesitamos cambiarSolo cambiamos aquello que necesitamos cambiar
Mon, 09/25/2023

Solo cambiamos aquello que necesitamos cambiar

"Solo cambiamos aquello que necesitamos cambiar" dice Alex rovira en el trebol de la semana

Por eso es necesaria una mínima dosis de…

Fear is the Source of Every Problem!Fear is the Source of Every Problem!
Sun, 09/24/2023

Fear is the Source of Every Problem!

Fear is the source of every problem.

If we can get down to the root of what the fear is, then we can start taking the steps to look at it…

Maybe just barely there . . .Maybe just barely there . . .
Sat, 09/23/2023

Maybe just barely there . . .

Ever had one of those days? You know . . . a day where everything seems to go wrong. You break the coffee pot, step on a piece of glass while you'…

Yesterday's Light!Yesterday's Light!
Mon, 09/18/2023

Yesterday's Light!

How many of us go through life thinking about yesterday? Having regrets about things we did, shouldn't have done, or could have done differently?…

Negotiating is wiseNegotiating is wise
Tue, 09/12/2023

Negotiating is wise

I know some people have an aversion to negotiating. They may even think it's a disrespectful thing to do.

I agree there are times when…

You're Missing You!You're Missing You!
Tue, 09/12/2023

You're Missing You!

Raise your hand if you’re one who often dwells on the past. Okay, then you’re like most people.

Raise your hand if you find yourself often…

Kitchen mishaps and self-compassionKitchen mishaps and self-compassion
Tue, 09/12/2023

Kitchen mishaps and self-compassion

A few weeks ago, my stomach grumbled with hunger, and turkey chili with rice was the antidote. I poured the ingredients into a glass container and…

"You can lead a horse to water ...""You can lead a horse to water ..."
Thu, 09/07/2023

"You can lead a horse to water ..."

But you can’t make it drink!” This popular idiom is about control, and the fact that no one can, or should control another person. A lot of people…

When it's over ... moving on!When it's over ... moving on!
Sat, 09/02/2023

When it's over ... moving on!

Who out there over the age of say, 13, hasn’t had their heart broken by someone breaking up with them? I would venture to say, no one. It happens…

We Can Do More Than We Think We Can!We Can Do More Than We Think We Can!
Fri, 09/01/2023

We Can Do More Than We Think We Can!

When a horse starts his training, he's afraid to pull 25 pounds, when in fact he has the power to pull 9000 pounds. But he doesn't know it. He has…

Watch out for that speed bump!Watch out for that speed bump!
Thu, 08/31/2023

Watch out for that speed bump!

There’s nothing more annoying than going through a supermarket parking lot. All you want to do is park, go in, get your Rocky Road ice cream, and…

Walking on Tiptoes!Walking on Tiptoes!
Wed, 08/30/2023

Walking on Tiptoes!

Is there a person in your life in whose presence you're not You? A person in whose presence you have to watch what you say, what you do, what you…

Unanswered Prayers!Unanswered Prayers!
Tue, 08/29/2023

Unanswered Prayers!

When I was 17, I prayed for Greg Kracy to like me and ask me to the prom. Greg Kracy did neither.

When I was 21 and pregnant with my first…

Trials: The Art of Being Perfected!Trials: The Art of Being Perfected!
Mon, 08/28/2023

Trials: The Art of Being Perfected!

While talking to my brother some years ago, he shared that November had been quite a trying month of one unfortunate event after another. First, a…

To What Are We Hanging On?To What Are We Hanging On?
Fri, 08/25/2023

To What Are We Hanging On?

So often we hold onto beliefs based on something we heard as a child, or from something we heard on the news, or even from something someone said…

Boxing + Faulty Recall = PositivityBoxing + Faulty Recall = Positivity
Thu, 08/24/2023

Boxing + Faulty Recall = Positivity

Tim is a client I’ve been working with for more than 20 years. Before Covid, we were in the gym three days a week, and now we train at his home…

Thoughts, Thoughts, and More Thoughts!Thoughts, Thoughts, and More Thoughts!
Thu, 08/24/2023

Thoughts, Thoughts, and More Thoughts!

There are so many that run through your minds, every day--too many too count. A lot of them are negative; so negative in fact, they ruin your day…

How to Silence a One-upperHow to Silence a One-upper
Wed, 08/23/2023

How to Silence a One-upper

A few days ago, I took a break from cataloguing books and went outside to a small garden next to the library for a breath of fresh air. 

Things Don't Equal Happiness!Things Don't Equal Happiness!
Wed, 08/23/2023

Things Don't Equal Happiness!

If they did, everyone with lots of things and money would be the happiest people in the world. But they’re not. My husband has the opportunity to…

They're Your Shoes! Only You Can Fill Them!They're Your Shoes! Only You Can Fill Them!
Mon, 08/21/2023

They're Your Shoes! Only You Can Fill Them!

Somewhere along the way, people have gotten the idea that they’re not enough; that they’re missing a piece; and that without that piece they’re…

There Are None More Blind Than...There Are None More Blind Than...
Fri, 08/18/2023

There Are None More Blind Than...

Being blind isn't just a physical condition that affects the eyes. In fact, there is a worse kind of blindness—ignorance, selfishness, prejudice,…

A Bag of FigsA Bag of Figs
Fri, 08/18/2023

A Bag of Figs

I saw a lot of strange and amazing things growing up around the world, but one thing I rarely saw was my mother’s appreciation when presented with…

The YOU Behind the Mask!The YOU Behind the Mask!
Thu, 08/17/2023

The YOU Behind the Mask!

You walk into the Masquerade Ball outfitted in vibrant blue; a green, yellow, and purple Mask over your face, making you unrecognizable. You snake…

The Unexpected Visitor!The Unexpected Visitor!
Wed, 08/16/2023

The Unexpected Visitor!

Sometimes our plans just don’t work out. In fact, sometimes something so unexpected happens, it throws us completely off the track.

And yes…

The TRUTH Behind the Lie!The TRUTH Behind the Lie!
Tue, 08/15/2023

The TRUTH Behind the Lie!

What you say: “Everything’s fine!” What you’re thinking: I’m about to lose my job and just had a fight with my son.

What you say: “…

Remembering ChrisRemembering Chris
Mon, 08/14/2023

Remembering Chris

While meditating a couple of weeks ago, Chris came to mind. The last time I saw him in person was when we were 12, graduating from the sixth grade…

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