Do They Make You Better?
We become the people with whom we associate on a regular basis. That's why it's important to understand whether we need to spend more or less time with them. If they make us better people, then by all means, continue the relationship. But if instead, they bring out the worst in you, or discourage you from being the best version of yourself, re-assess that relationship.
Slipstream
So true. Fortunately, we usually have a choice, but sometimes, if it's a workmate or family member, you have to navigate the waters carefully. Determining how to limit your time with anyone who brings you down is a wise move. Thanks for the post.
Sanatana
It does make a difference if it's someone with whom you have to have more contact. I suppose all we can do is limit that contact and set clear boundaries.
Evangel
It's been my experience that most people do not want to be pushed or held accountable by their friends. They say they do, but deep down they want the opposite.
They want praise and camaraderie because that translates into acceptance. They want to have a fun time, maybe gossip, and/or rag on others because that means they can be themselves with you. They want your ear. And they want you to hear them out and agree with whatever they say. That gives them the approval they need. They may even want to cry on your shoulder, but they don't want to be told they played a part in triggering the person who upset them. If you call them out, plan on getting a defensive cold shoulder or even losing them as a friend.
Over the years, I've learned that the term "friend" can mean different things to different people, but when I'm with a friend, it means I'm in the company of a sensitive soul who just wants to relax, be who they are, and feel loved when I'm around.
Sanatana
I agree. The type of friend you describe is rare. Fortunately, you're one of them.
Evangel
Thank you, and back at you🤗