Are you a people pleaser?

Some people have a very difficult time saying no to others. And because of it, they usually end up feeling resentful and angry.

When you are accessible to anyone at any time for any reason, you've lost control of your energy, your peace of mind, and your time.

One thing you can do to stop this pattern is to take a breath before responding to a request. If need be, leave the discussion before you get roped into doing something you really don't want to do. In fact, it's OK to turn off your phone. No need to feel guilty.

Another thing you can do is say, "Not today." Or, "I'm not interested." In truth, you don't have to justify or explain your absence or the reasons you're saying no.

Freeing yourself from constantly being available may feel very difficult at first, especially if you're not used to saying no. But over time, and with practice, it will become easier. Start small. Say no to unimportant things. You will discover that you will be respected more.

Remember ... when you become unavailable, you become more attractive and sought after.

Here's an example ... you're looking through Amazon and you notice one of the items on your Wish List says, only one left in stock. Don't know when we'll get it back.

You had no intention of buying anything. But now that the item is not going to be available, you make an exception and put it in your cart and check out.

This is the same way with people. Don't be too available. You are important and that's one way to remind people of who you really are.