Ten Reasons You Should Judge Yourself, Seriously!
I'll try to keep this simple and as brief as necessary.
Lately I've seen loads of horse**** from influencers who aspire to be "the best version" of themselves. Well, pray Jesus, what in the name of sweet potatoes does that mean? At the same time, these wizards tell us we shouldn't judge ourselves. Now how in God's name does anyone arrive at their best imaginary self without any self-judgment?
Look, we men are all a fat bag of mixed nuts. You know it, I know it. You can pick at it all day long, but if there's some better version of those nuts inside of you, you won't find it until you start genuinely judging those nuts and weeding out the rancid ones.
So, to help you out, here are ten reasons to dig down and judge what's inside your bag. Hopefully you'll find some that look like better angels instead of just a nut.
1. You're fake. You pretend you're the best version of yourself when you know you're not. Even worse, you charge big bucks to teach others how to fake it till they make it. Instead, be real and teach that.
2. You judge others. When you judge someone else, you become smug and happy that someone's not quite as (pick your adjective) as you are. Judge why you judge others and learn from that.
3. You're distant and above others. You see yourself as part of a hierarchical group you don't actually belong to, but wish you did. Nothing wrong with hoping, but find your league and be cool with that.
4. You're mean-spirited. You feel entitled to treat others like crap, kick them around, and prove your masculinity. Maybe others will buy it, but you know better. You've been a wimp all your life.
5. You haven't grown up. This means no one can really count on you for much. You flake. You make excuses. You have more important things to do. But you know the truth, you enjoy having no responsibilities. Time to man up.
6. You think DJT is the bomb. You want to be just like him. This is a reflection of your own desire to say eff-you to the world. That's a teenager speaking inside of you, not your better angels. Grow up.
7. You're corrupt. You don't give a crap about hurting others. It may even be fun to fantasize about inflicting revenge on others, or causing others pain, suffering, or great loss for no reason at all. Seek mental health support. You need it.
8. You're an addict. You can't admit it, though. You pretend you have it all under control, but you know you don't. You refuse to do anything about fixing it. Time to own it, judge it, and seek out a program to get you clean.
9. You're a narcissist. The world must revolve around you. When it doesn't, you throw an unsightly, scary tantrum to get the unwarranted attention you crave. Newsflash: the world won't ever revolve around you unless you mange to claw your way up into the Oval Office and sit behind the Resolute desk.
10. You intentionally humiliate others and feel pumped after doing it. Bad on you. Karma awaits. Figure out why you need to feel so powerful and superior to others. Get your act together and be a better human.
Your better angels await.
Slipstream
This is a fantastic playbook! Your years on this planet have given you so much wisdom. "Well, pray Jesus, what in the name of sweet potatoes does that mean?" Priceless!
Wilsons Grave
I don't think I even know what that means, but I'm glad it entertained you. Thanks for all the compliments in your comment.
Present Valley
On a light note, I love sweet potatoes, thank you for giving me a new way to use the words. 😊
This post gave me pause to think about what influencers are supposed to do. I don't know too much about them, but I think they are supposed to build trust and provide value to their readers/subscribers. Everyone who posts or comments on Youtropolis does that.
You are right there with Socrates in believing we need to look at ourselves. Although Freud got the credit for saying this, it was actually Socrates..."The unexamined life is not worth living."
Now the influencers that you describe, and there is no shortage right now, well, one can only hope that people will eventually wake up and see them for who and what they are. Perhaps there should be another name for them that includes a more accurate description which you have so beautifully laid out...narcissist, addict, fake, corrupt, mean spirited.
Thank you for this simple yet necessary post!
Wilsons Grave
Yes, sweet potatoes are good & healthy. I should've clarified that there are a load of worthy, useful influencers out there, but I'm only pointing out the frauds in the manosphere who are full of themselves and the b.s. they prescribe. Thanks for your thoughtful comment.
Well Street
I don't devote much time to social media, but I have seen examples of the behaviors you describe from both men and women online. It may be a man proclaiming that unless you're living as a hyper-masculine alpha, you're not living at all. Or it may be a woman glorifying the "Queen life," where men are to be toyed with, manipulated, and used for financial gain.
Now we have a generation of young adults who mistrust each other and skidding birthrates that have economists revising their predictions for Social Security's demise.
These are some hard truths you've listed. Facing oneself and getting real about character flaws that negatively impact others is a messy business, requiring real courage. It's no wonder many choose not to do it.
Wilsons Grave
There's gonna always be a battle of the sexes, right? Today's trends point to the roles reversing with men hooking up with female peers who make more money than they do...and the gal doesn't much mind. They guys call her a "mommy" and refer to themselves as "sugar boy."😆 The gal works two jobs and the dude stays home and tries to figure out his life. Getting real about character flaws may be impossible for some, especially if they're zonked out on a bed all day long, cutting loose in a bar with buddies, happy with themselves, are blind to their flaws, always blame the other person for crap that goes wrong, or are too lazy to do the work, but my plan is easy to follow for those who are serious and just don't know where to begin. Thanks for your heartfelt comment.
Evangel
I recently read the sad story about Zyzz, the bodybuilding influencer who died at 22. He was dedicated to bringing forth the best version of himself which he imagined to be purely physical. His cause of death was acute respiratory failure due to the combined use of benzodiazepines, morphine, and cocaine. He became obsessed with his flaws using teeth whiteners, tan and performance enhancing drugs. I could only feel sorry for his poor self-perception despite his efforts and his need to have a larger sphere of influence. At the base of his motivation to perfect his body was the very human need to be loved and seen--likely by too many.
I don't doubt this is the need of all media-savvy influencers beyond the joy of having money and power. But this influencer so wanted to be a superman, and yet out of reach for him was the ability to connect with the genuine superhero that lay dormant within him.
Your lesson is straightforward. You point out the negatives that humans should seek to correct. Not everyone will, but influencers should be the first to practice what they preach. Thanks for the insights.
Wilsons Grave
It's sad what happened to this kid. He lost his way and was determined to go rogue and abuse drugs. I agree he was looking for love, but drugs robbed him of life. It's a bummer for so many who lose their way. Thanks for your comment.