Your Focus!


Whatever we focus on will expand. That can go two ways--toward the positive or the negative.

I have a client who recently got new neighbors. They have three dogs. The dogs, my client found out, bark all day, non-stop. This is a client who loves his apartment and his quiet time. Now, all his focus is on the dogs and their loud barking, so naturally, he's going to hear them loud and clear and they will drive him crazy.

I talked to him about the power of focus; suggested he play some soothing music, turn on a white noise machine and go about his business. I also suggested he do something about which he's passionate. At that point, he would be so present, he probably won't notice the dogs much.

If we focus on the negative, that's what we'll get. The opposite is true.

I'm not saying some things aren't extremely annoying ... all I'm saying is that there is a way to shift the focus away from the annoying thing. The brain can only focus on one thing at a time.

Be totally focused on something you love to do. At that point, you'll be aware of nothing but the object of your awareness. Only when you stop what you're doing will you become aware of how hard you've been concentrating.


I know what you mean about focus. By being focused on the task at hand, you can block out almost anything. Thanks!


I think people don’t realize how often they focus on the negative things and obsess over them. Turning away from it and toward something you love sounds like good medicine. It would be a good experiment to try it, and much better than stewing in anger or plotting revenge. Maybe this is what Jesus really meant by saying, “turn the other cheek.”


I've been working on this and it's really helping with staying away from negative thoughts. Now I'm more focuses on the task at hand, whatever that may be at the time.