Self-Confidence is the New Sexy!

So there are the “Beautiful” people, the “Not So Beautiful” people, and the “Less Than Not So Beautiful” people. The NSB people, and the LTNSB people sometimes envy and are jealous of the B people. The thing is that the B people don’t have anything to do with their beauty. It’s all genetics. In a TED talk I listened to, model Cameron Russell said she “won the genetic lottery because she is tall, pretty, and an underwear model.” When you really think about it, we compliment beautiful people for their beauty—something they had nothing to do with. It was just a combination of genes ending up a certain way.

Often times the NSB and the LTNSB people lack self-confidence and go around feeling less than in comparison to the B people, whom they think have it made. I mean, what’s more important than being Beautiful, right? A lot more—self-confidence being one of the key ingredients.

I’m not saying that being beautiful is a terrible thing. Hey, if you got the gene combo that makes you beautiful, more power to you. Enjoy! What I am saying is that being beautiful physically doesn’t make you beautiful. There’s a lot more that goes into it. Have you ever known a beautiful person, and the more you got to know them, the less beautiful they appeared to be? What happened? Unless they were disfigured in an accident, their looks didn’t change, right? The opposite is also true. When I first met my algebra teacher while working on my B. A., I didn’t consider her to be what most people would call good looking. But, oh my, by the end of the quarter she was one of the most beautiful people I’d ever met. Her true beauty—her intelligence, sense of humor, kindness, and dedication—emanated out of her, and that’s all I could see.

Self-confidence can make you truly beautiful, and lack of, can take it away. You were not in control of your genetic make up, but you can control how you move through life. Nobody can argue with self-confidence because when you have it, you’re in charge. It shows in how you carry yourself, how you talk, walk, and present yourself. That’s more important and noticeable than a beautiful person who is awkward, and self-loathing. And there are plenty of those around.

Ms. Russell goes on to say, “ . . . because the thing that we never say on camera, that I have never said on camera, is, ‘I am insecure.’ And I'm insecure because I have to think about what I look like every day. And if you ever are wondering, "If I have thinner thighs and shinier hair, will I be happier?" you just need to meet a group of models, because they have the thinnest thighs and the shiniest hair and the coolest clothes, and they're the most physically insecure women probably on the planet.

“Looks aren’t everything. Believe me, I’m a model.”

Genetics are genetics. It’s a roll of the dice. But self-confidence is something else; it is the Recognition of who you truly are. And there’s nothing more beautiful and sexier than that!